No one told me that a truly selfish person gives to others.
I want to live my best life. I want to have the most fun. I want to be surrounded by sparkling, smiling, fulfilled people. I have the power to help people in small and profound ways to liberate themselves, feel supported, get excited, feel inspired, and simply connect. When I do, I get the benefit of their delight, their relief, their excitement, and their smile reflected back at me. So yes, giving is the most selfish act. It helps me live in a more beautiful world.
I notice you sparkle when I extend that invitation. You like parties. This makes me happy. I notice when I help you feel a crucial adjustment in your body, you feel relief. This makes me happy. I notice that when I hold you, you relax and feel more peaceful. This makes me happy. I notice when I serve you tea in my mismatched tea set, you feel like my honored guest. You are. This makes me happy. I notice when I come up with a creative role for you to inhabit in one of my events, you are tickled. This makes me happy.
The bummer is when you give the support, the energy, the time, the resources and it doesn’t help. It isn’t received. It isn’t valued. The energy leaves your body, your life, your mind, your time and it isn’t reflected back to you. This is a true loss. I notice this too.
Am I giving to the wrong person or people? Am I giving the wrong thing? Am I giving under the wrong circumstances?
We all want to give something powerful and meaningful so we can live in a more beautiful world. We all want to give what we specifically give so very well.
What are the things that you do that get you the reflection you enjoy most in your life?
Be Selfish. Give More.
Jodi Lomask and Mich Wong at Burning Man 2011